I had read a remarkable book a few months back called Becoming Supernatural written by Dr. Joe Dispenza, Dr. Joe talks in great detail about how our bodies are conditioned in the past-present moment. When we want to change the wiring in our brain to become more happy, fruitful, we need to get our bodies into a present-future state of being.
Think about how many times you have felt guilty, sad, angry based on an experience that happened or you did not receive what you had expected. That's because our emotions are always linked to a past event, and since we felt those emotions so deeply back then, our mind has become used to those certain emotions.
If you grew up in a negative environment, it's more likely for all your life, you will be conditioned to such familiar emotions. Now that shouldn't give you an excuse to be angry for the rest of your life, you always have two choices. Taking the high road to your successes and riches which is totally obtainable, or allow the conditioning to swallow you whole.
I know we all want to achieve our goals, become rich, have a successful relationship, etc. But how do we obtain all of that when we are still reminiscing on our past? It's hard to let go of the past because it's familiar, it's comfortable, its where we have developed our emotional intelligence. But when you are still stuck in the past, you will never move forward. I know you know that as well. How can we be appreciative of what we have here and now when we keep looking back? I'm sure your neck will start to hurt if you keep looking backward lol.
My dad always used to tell me, life is a long road, just keep driving forward, and eventually, you will reach your destination. We all stumble, remember we are not perfect but to stay stuck will suck you down and swallow you whole. I have been learning this the hard way lately, a lot of my past experiences have been popping up, but to me its because I haven't dealt with that situation and healed from it. Situations that are familiar will keep popping up until you become aware and let it go. I've always held on to my past experiences because I felt guilty, and in a way, I felt I needed to punish myself for doing wrong.
I would relive those emotions over and over and no wonder I was so sad! Seeking therapy helped me in tremendous ways. When I forgave myself and that particular event that was still lingering in my mind, I was allowed to let go.
When you let go of your past experiences, you release the control it has over you mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. think about it, how will you ever be happy when your mind keeps re-living over an event that made you feel so ugly inside? You simply can not!! But through the practice of self-love, therapy, journaling! You will allow yourself to release those chains and live more freely and simply.
We cant re-write our past but we can re-write our future and make it the best damn life we have!! Some tips that can help you let go of your past is Forgiving yourself. When you can forgive yourself, for the mistakes you made when you were younger, maybe more vulnerable, you can release the mental tension and the guilt. Crazy how easy it is to forgive others, but how dare look at yourself and say it's okay. I know that's something that I'm still working on. Forgive yourself for what you didn't know then compared to know.
Focusing on the present, here and now. When you allow yourself to be immersed in the here and now you will see all of your problems dissolve. You will become so preoccupied focusing on whatever it is you lay your attention on, that it's impossible to focus on past events. This takes time and practice but meditation will allow you to seek this state.
Expressing your pain. Express how you feel, sad, angry, when you can define how you feel towards a past situation, it will become easier to let go. If it involves hurting another person unintentionally, maybe go to that person and apologize, express how you feel and why it's still bothering you. Allowing yourself to feel those emotions but don't let it control you. Remember you're only causing misery to yourself when you keep allowing guilt and sadness to take over. You're putting yourself through that misery twice by still giving that past trauma attention, so express your pain, forgive yourself, and or another and let go. This also will take a lot of self-work on your part but in order to move forward with your life, it is necessary especially if it's still bothering you.
LET GO! I know easier said than done right? How many people have told us this when we have expressed our pain regarding a past situation? I would become so angry because it just wasn't that easy for me to let go. But by taking all of the steps above, it will allow you to let go. When you forgive yourself and your past, focusing on the now and expressing whatever lingering negative thoughts and emotions that are still present, you will let it go. The past is the past sweetheart, you can't go back and change a thing, but when we look at past situations as good life lessons, we will be able to recognize our patterns so that we don't make the same mistake.
Learn from your past but don't become embodied in it. Have faith in yourself that you will get through it and remember that life is one big lesson. Now its time to re-write your future and grab life by the horns!
Take back your power and remember we have two choices in life. We can become swallowed by our past or we can focus on where we want to go. The choice is yours my friend so make the right decision for you! You deserve it!
"Do not let the shadows of your past darken the doorstep of your future. Forgive and forget."
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