The 2- Minute Rule

Last night after I finished my last post, I was still feeling a bit crummy. I guess that's what comes with pregnancy and the extra hormones. Most of the time I'm happy and excited about life, and the direction it's heading, and I know I will have a bright future ahead of me, but sometimes I still can't shake off certain things, and people from my past that come to haunt me. I've been having weird vivid dreams the last few nights of people that were in my life that I let go.

It was as if the universe was telling me "don't worry I pulled them away from your life for a reason." I got emotional last night while thinking of my mom and all of a sudden I guess you can say I had some sort of revelation.

As a child when I was throwing my typical bratty tantrums, she would say "Senny you have 2 minutes to feel this way and then I'm sucking all the bad outta ya!" She would then proceed to take my arm and tickle me as if she was ripping out the sadness, or whatever negative emotion I was feeling in the moment.

My mom had used the "2-minute rule" with me up until she had passed. I will never forget how she made me feel, she had allowed me to feel whatever emotion was swirling through me and then told me after 2 minutes was up, to switch my focus on something positive.

When my daughter is old enough to go through her own little moments I will make sure to implement my own" 2-minute rule". I think its key to have little mantras like this because it's true, why be stuck in a rut for the rest of your day just because of one little moment ruined your zen?

 I'm sure you all have heard the 5 by 5 rule. " If it's not going to matter in 5 years, don't spend more than 5 minutes being upset about it."Its the same analogy my mom had implemented on me and honestly I slack in this department. It's easy to say that we are over something but hows our body language? Our facial expressions? If they're telling a different story than what we're saying its time to do some inner-work.

If you're one of the individuals who can let go of negative emotions in a reasonable time, please shoot me an email explaining how you go through with it lol. I've honestly been better when letting go of eerie emotions but lately it's like my emotions have doubled!! But from last night's little revelation moment, I will make sure to work on dealing with certain emotions by analyzing and reassuring myself that everything will be okay.  This morning I let go of all negative emotions that were related from last night, smiled, and breathed in the new day.

My advice for you all is to implement a rule of your own on how you will deal with certain things or if people are just mean to you, how you will respond to yourself and how long you will allow negative emotions to take over.

Holding yourself accountable in times like these will help you see the bigger picture. It will allow you to think about how you will respond to your outer and inner world. Will you allow yourself to have a shitty day just because old Joe over there is being a twit to you, or will you try and let it go and have a fruitful life?!

 I talk about habits in one of my other blogs, Healthy Habits and, I think it's great to form a habit of how you will respond next time you encounter a conflict. Practice being patient with yourself, and remember you're human and have feelings. You have every right to feel how you feel, but after a certain amount of time, is it still worth it to feel crappy? It's up to you to decide how long emotions will control you.

"Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned." -Buddha