In my last blog, I discussed the importance of not having an ego. For those of you who did not read my last post, basically, the ego is living in your own self-absorbed bubble, and not taking in other people's constructive criticism in a healthy way. Funny I got inspired to write about the importance of pride due to the somewhat constructive criticism comments I received in one of my FB groups.
The commenters basically had asked me why my title had been the relevancy of ego, and if I was relating that to pride. I said pride and ego go hand in hand when we really think about it, however, pride is important, and can be used in a more positive way than ego.
Let me start off by defining what pride is. Pride: a feeling that you respect yourself and deserve to be respected by other people: a feeling of happiness that when you or someone you know does something good, difficult, etc. Funny I always thought pride was a negative thing to have because I thought it meant you could not recognize any faults that you made due to feeling superior.
When I first connected with my boyfriend, he told me about the importance of having pride, especially in a man. Now ladies we sure need to have pride as well, all of the accomplishments, and the hard work we've done over the years, we need to be prideful of how we built our kingdom as well.
Pride is something we need to hold onto for the rest of our lives. Pride allows us to not feel sorry for the things we haven't done. I know I can relate to that feeling because I somehow always felt guilty if someone accused me of doing something to them when I know I didn't. I always apologized even when I was in the right due to feeling sympathy and not wanting to give up friendships. I had allowed people to walk all over me like a doormat.
I didn't have pride back when I was a teenager because I felt it was selfish, but now looking back I could've and should've walked away from unhealthy relationships sooner only if I had the confidence, and pride to do so. It doesn't matter what the other person thinks of you, if you feel the need to walk away, that's your pride telling you, "let's go they don't deserve you."
Now just like the ego needs to be put in check sometimes, so does your pride. A lot of relationship issues come from not seeing the other person's point of view, and allowing yourself to become self-centered and we all know that doesn't end well when it comes to relationships. Like I mentioned in my last blog, a relationship that is a two-way connection needs to flow.
We need to listen and communicate effectively with one another if we want a lasting and most importantly healthy one. When we lose our pride and ego to a loving relationship, we allow that connection to blossom and grow into something miraculous. If something is bothering you and that significant other means a lot to you, sit down and talk it out and express how you're feeling. Change happens within people when we lose our pride and ego and reflect back on our actions and words.
Now, this can go the other way as well! Let's say you're in a toxic relationship, the other person never listens and is not compassionate to you or your feelings, that's when your pride comes into play, along with self-respect and self-love and you walk away. Knowing how to use your pride for you is key.
Have that pride to walk away from anything unhealthy and that is not serving your soul. Have that pride when you work on something that you're passionate about! People can feel the energy you put into your work, trust me! Just like ego, it's up to you to decide how you will use your pride. Will you use it for you or against it? Only one can decide such fate!
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