In The Name Of Self-love

"Someone's opinion of you does not need to become your reality." This morning like every morning we start out the day with motivating compilations. Our favorite motivational speaker is Les Brown. I love Les Brown because all odds were against him since he had been born, but he didn't allow the negative influences of others and the fact he was adopted to hold him back. I can relate to Les Brown in so many ways because I could've easily let the labels that were placed on me to affect my life, and allow victimization to take over, but I decided I will never be a victim but use all of what I learned and empower others. 

The quote I chose today inspired me to write about self because only we dictate our lives, what our standards are, how we behave towards others and ourselves, the list goes on and on. What others think of you is none of your business, and anytime someone says something negative about you, and I'm not talking about in a constructive criticism way, that's a reflection of they think of themselves. No one's opinion of you should matter to you, only what you think of yourself. I know it may be hard to comprehend that, but it's true. How do you think of yourself?
When you look in the mirror, do you see a vibrant awesome being?

If those 2 questions I just asked didn't resonate with you in a positive way, I advise you to re-think how you think! How you're feeding your mind every day, how you're speaking to yourself every day. Your spirit doesn't know the difference between you talking negatively or positively, it will only manifest what you keep feeding it, so it better be good folks!

That quote inspired me to discuss the importance of always showing up for yourself in the name of self-love, and learning to become your biggest fan. We all unconsciously expect others to get us motivated, whether it's your significant others, your parents breathing down your neck about a job, you catch my drift. But how about getting up every day with a smile on your face because YOU decided today will be an amazing day to smash your goals?!

I started studying today to take a test soon and let me tell you, three hours of non-stop staring at the screen of material really wiped me out! However, I couldn't move on to the next chapter in my course until I passed the quiz. 4 failed attempts later, and still wasn't getting anywhere, so I just kept re-reading the material, writing in my notebook not to give up, and eventually, I will succeed.

 I think its the mixture of the hour of the day, I'm tired already and staring at a computer screen for countless hours isn't the best thing for your health, so I decided not to be hard on myself and finish the task tomorrow with a fresh mind! I had to literally tell myself"Tomorrow is a new day, we will succeed!" I know myself better than anyone and I know how I can get once I start something, I don't like to stop until its finished, even if it drives me to the brink of insanity, but becoming manic in performing tasks is definitely not healthy.

We tend to be our worst enemies sometimes and it needs to stop people. I'm all for raising our own standards of our work ethic, how we treat others but let's stop criticizing ourselves for the little mistakes we do. Making mistakes is how we all learn. The next time you make a mistake, instead of putting yourself down about it, thank yourself for trying and find a different way to solve whatever it is you're doing.

Remember how you treat yourself is how you allow others to treat you as well. If you don't see yourself as a worthy person, then how can someone else see you like that? It starts with you. Start each morning with loving affirmations and place them in significant areas around your house.  What comes after "I am" is up to you, but whatever you decide to write, write something genuine because you are talking about you, you almighty being!!  Even if you think what you wrote is corny at first, eventually your mind will start to believe you are worthy, you are beautiful, you are whole, I could go on giving you affirmations, but list a few that resonate with you, put them everywhere and each morning give thanks to yourself.

"We must fall in love with ourselves. I don't like myself. I'm crazy about myself."- Mae West