Master Self-Control

As I now dive into the journey of motherhood, I need to remember this is not just about myself. This is about my baby and my partner. I thought the topic of self-control was necessary especially with what I am going through. This is not just for pregnant women lol, this is for everyone who wants to take back control of their lives.  I mentioned in a few of my blogs that we don't have control over everything in our lives except our attitude, emotions, self-expression, and our habits.

Let me ask you... Do you feed the healthy habits or the not so healthy ones? I know for myself, I've struggled with saving money. Every time I got my check, Id either spend it on a new wardrobe or take out all my friends to bars. I had to get angry with myself because I had worked so hard and then poof, it's gone! I mean how sad is that?

Now don't get me wrong, I always paid my bills early, but that bit of money saved over, I'd spend it in a heartbeat. I realized I had some sort of an addiction to spending. Thankfully a lot of people go through it as well, so I didn't feel entirely alone, but I knew I needed some help. My partner has been a great support to me and has held me accountable for my actions. Now that we have a baby on the way it is so crucial for me to start saving for our future.

Habits can either lift you up or bring you down. I didn't realize the negative habit I formed until I stared at my bank account a few times and wondered where did it all go? I can tell myself over and over not to spend, but my why and self-control needs to be stronger. It's like the alcoholic that keeps saying hell quit tomorrow, but you'll find him at the bar the very next day. Our why has to be greater than us just telling ourselves well quit. I've told myself plenty of times to not spend, but here I am again ordering food or, unnecessary items. 

Self-control and discipline are key in your life when you're trying to be better. That's the only way we can really succeed and achieve anything. Not to mention, sacrificing as well, but all of those plays into our future and how it will be like. If you want to change something about yourself, or get rid of a negative habit, becoming aware is always the first step to tackling a problem.

Let's be self-aware of the hole we've unconsciously dug for ourselves, and stop the digging right there. Now in my case, I've been spending like crazy for a few years now. This will not be an overnight process, I wish it was, but like they say, Rome wasn't built in a day.

Learning to master self-control takes a very long time, and it should stick with you for the rest of your life. I've mastered my way of eating, I used to eat a great ton, but through years of discipline and training myself I've formed the habit of fasting for long periods of time.

I can't do that now unfortunately, baby needs to eat, but because I've trained myself not to consume a whole lot, even now, I have one big meal, and some snacks in a day and I feel great! But I had to work towards that! Going from binge eating when I was stressed, to focusing on the self-love I had for my body, I had to control my eating habits. But people, it gets easier with time and patience. The key is not to give up!!

It's always hard in the beginning especially when we've conditioned our brains to spend lots of money or eat a lot of food, whatever it is you want to control in your life, you have the will power to do so! Let's hold ourselves accountable, work on our issues, and let's be proud! Pat yourself on the back if you ever worked on any issue, whether it be might've been big or small, but remember that time, remember that you had the will power to keep going!

With discipline, you can control a lot that goes into your life. I keep repeating that it isn't easy because it is not, but I promise you, when you have a purpose, self-control and the discipline to hold yourself to it, you will set out to do anything.

Remember it always starts with you.