Change is Inevitable

This is a perfect topic to discuss since today is June 1st! New month, new opportunities to grow in all aspects! I have been thinking a lot about people that once were in my life, and when I see what they are up to now, its the same thing as when we were in high school or a few years back. Crazy to see how people can become so content without evolving. I always used to ask myself, how can I become better than I was yesterday? If I had a bad day yesterday, what can I do today differently so I have a positive effect on myself and the people around me?

As the title of this blog post today, change is inevitable. Whether we know it or not, we are always evolving even it's just physically. Every year you get older, your skin, hair, body changes. You certainly don't look like you did when you were younger. That's because we as humans are meant to change! Whether we are conscious of our change or not, when we want to achieve what we want out of life, we need to change our habits.

 We need to act the way we need in order to get there. We need to be mindful as well of our thinking. If we're still thinking like we did in high school, that's not going to help you one bit. The lessons that are brought into our lives are meant for us to wake up, and to see where we can change our thinking, our attitude towards situations, etc.

I read a quote once that says "you have no obligation to be who you were a year ago, a month ago, a week, and even 15 minutes ago." That quote always sticks to me because it allows me to really believe if I want to change I have the power. I changed a lot during the past 6 months, not to mention the past year. The bad habits I formed, I was partying a lot, and not caring for my well being the way I should have had taken such a toll on me mentally and emotionally, I had no choice but to grow up and to recognize my faults.

In order for us to change, we need to look ourselves in the mirror and become aware of the self-harm we are enduring whether it be emotionally, physically, and mentally. Unfortunately, a lot of people don't do that, they tend to blame others for their faults, childhood, or even turn to drugs and alcohol to suppress the pain and guilt. I feel for those people because I too had been down that road. I drank a lot during my 21st year, I know you might all think its normal to party, and don't get me wrong there isn't a problem with having fun, but when you're doing it to cover up all the emotional pain inside, that's when it turns deadly.

I thank god for never becoming addicted to the escape, but I was close. After two years of constantly feeling hungover, dragging myself into a miserable job, I had to face myself in the mirror and grow up. It wasn't easy, but through the right help, the gym, and allowing myself to read, I had become such a healthy person inside and out. But it had to start with me folks! I had to have the desire, that need for change, more than digging myself deeper into the hole.

I'm not saying I am reborn now because I have a lot more to self-work to accomplish, but again taking that first step and wanting myself to become better is what we all need in order to change. Don't change for your kids, your family, friends, it needs to start with you! Even if it's going into isolation for a while to really build your character again, take the time and do so. The worlds changing before our eyes, but we need to be able to stay in the flow. We need to catch up because it will come back and bite us.

An interesting topic regarding change is trying to change other people for the benefit of yourself. We see this a lot in relationships, businesses, families. I'm not a professional or anything but, I've been through my own experiences where people wanted to change me to conform to their comfortability. A lot of people, unfortunately, feel they are not the problem, that its the other individual, and try and persuade them to do a whole 360.

That's not how it works people. We have no right to change others, nor does it ever pan out that way. You may feel you have changed someone, and in actuality, if they did, it was not because of your doing but, the motivation somehow clicked, and they realized what they needed to do.

It is never your place nor right to change anyone but yourself. When people are mean or unkind to you, it's not we need to fix them but we need to change something within us. Now I'm not saying be unkind back but set the example, be the bigger person and show them that their unkindness is not bothersome to you. Changing your perception of people will help you in uncomfortable situations. And always remember too, when someone is nasty to you, its a reflection of them not you!

When you change your reality and see things in a different light, we can live our best lives. Remember change is inevitable, and life will pass us by, but evolving is what we're here on this planet to do. Evolve and become the best version of you! Change is unlimited and ageless. You can be 80 and still yearn to grow, maybe how you react to others, your perception of reality. Never stop changing and always improve! Be the example you want in this world.

"Change your opinions, keep to your principles; change your leaves, keep intact your roots." -Victor Hugo