Judge Less, Perceive More

I was studying one last time for my big exam today which I PASSED!! I was so happy you can't believe it! I have been studying for an aggressive 2 weeks and all of those restless nights had finally pulled off! As I was studying, I put on some motivational compilations and, decided to listen to Tony Robbins on the power of positivity.

  It was a short 15-minute seminar but the information was priceless.  He said, "when you feel a negative thought pop up in your mind, try not to judge yourself for it, but to perceive it, and then wish it away." I found that very interesting because I try and do that myself.

I have been better at observing my thoughts and realizing when a negative thought appears, to analyze it but not allow it to control the little world up there, as well as my emotions. I feel like most people when they receive a negative thought they tend to put themselves down, question their motives when in all reality, we all get negative thoughts! The purpose is to not engage in the negative thought but, think of something that you are grateful for.

The rest of the short seminar he goes on about how we need to slow down and, stop judging others as well! The power of controlling that urge to automatically judge another or ourselves. His motto was when you feel like you are about to judge someone, examine your thoughts, and ask yourself why you're thinking that way in the first place. I agree with his message because we all have different levels of judgemental nature.

 I say if you feel the need to judge someone, judge them on their attitude whether it's positive or negative. Physicality is off-limits. I am all for looking ourselves in the mirror and if we notice were falling off the wagon a little, that's a healthy judgment of oneself and therefore we need to take action.  My motto is judging someone else because of their natural physicality is a big no, no!

I'm sure you all have heard, when we judge something in others, it's really how we feel about ourselves. It's the same as if something one does that triggers us, it usually derives from something in us that we need to work on. I never understood that concept until I got into the personal development world. By taking personal responsibility in the things we can control such as our attitude and emotions, we tend to judge less and observe more.

Think about the next time you see something a person doing that you find odd... before you judge that person, ask yourself why are you even bothered in the first place by him? Unless the individual is bothering you, but judging others is just a reflection of ourselves. Learn to observe and maybe play a little psychology game with yourself, ask yourself why do people do what they do? Is it due to a lack of attention? Is this their way of crying out for help? Who knows, the ball is in your court to try and figure it out, but allowing yourself to just observe will keep from speaking your two-cents.

I used to judge myself a lot more as well as others. When I first moved to the city, you know how the city can be filled with different characters and my fellow train buddies, I'm sure you have all seen some entertainment when riding the subway.

I used to judge those people but one day I decided, I don't know what they're going through, maybe this is their way of screaming for attention. Of course, we have all seen the mentally-impaired that just can't help themselves, but even those people, learn to observe before you judge! As mom would always say " If you have nothing nice to say, don't say it."

The bottom line my friends is to slow down the mind and observe. Learning how to quiet the mind takes practice but in a lot of my blogs, I discuss the topic of Meditation! Meditation will help you quiet your talkative mind and slow down.  When I meditate, I am more clear on what's happening around me, more present, and I can analyze my thoughts. This takes patience and persistence, but you all can do it if not already have started too!

The next time you're ready to judge others or yourself, remember to sit back perceive, and send yourself and others love!

"Thinking is difficult, that's why most people judge."- Carl Gustav Jung