The People You Surround Yourself With

I'm sure you all are aware of the famous line, "show me the 5 closest people you surround yourself with and I will tell you who you are". That speaks to me greatly. Believe it or not, I never believed in it growing up. I guess I always wanted to hang around the cool kids or the rebels.

 As a teen, I was definitely an adrenaline junky and still am, but back then I was geared more to the rebel side.  My friends had a tremendous impact on my decision making. Sad to say but if my friends jumped, I most likely would have too. 

Now as a mature young adult, I cut off a lot of people from my life. Some due to negative influences, I'm not saying I'm an angel now but, you know that feeling when you need to listen to your intuition. My dreams and goals were nothing similar to any of the people I surrounded myself with. I hope the people that once were in my life went off to do amazing things, but the alignment wasn't there for me anymore. 

I had gone out every weekend when I was legal to drink and up until I met my boyfriend, I had been constantly involving myself in the party scene. I wasn't happy, but seeing my friends going out made me think if I just go out and drink then all my problems will go away right?! WRONG!! Every night from coming home at 5 am, wasting my day hungover, puking my brains out, heading to the gym, work, and then repeat. I mean what a life I had! (Sarcastic tone) 

One day I had a revelation. I had to stop this madness. I realized I was going way down the dark rabbit hole and let me tell you it wasn't the hole where you find enlightenment. I felt worthless, depressed, faking this happy facade I couldn't do it anymore. Something in me had to change, and that's when the lightbulb went off in my head folks. 

I knew my environment had to change as well as the people if I wanted to flourish and really become this Kseniya I had sought out to be in the first place. It was hard letting go of my partying lifestyle, to be honest. Every weekend, I would get a text asking if I was headed to the bar or a party, but the drive to change was stronger. I decided to quit my job in the night scene as a server and bartender and try something sooo out of my realm! 

I received a call from a marketing company I had applied for and went in for the interview. At first, I was intimidated by all of the masculine energy but I knew I was to prove myself. I take everything as a competition lol, that Capricorn in me I guess. 

 I remember being a beasting the interview and coming out of there with such confidence, I knew I'd be hired. And sure enough, a few hours later I got called in to train the very next day. As training went by I finally understood what my duty was. Door to door selling Verizon FiOS. Always being in somewhat of the spotlight, I knew I could handle it. Every morning before we headed into the field, we had an impact. The impact was for practicing pitch, learning the more ins and outs of what we offered potential Verizon customers and along with team building and independent work. 

I loved the energy of my team. I had met remarkable people there. Every day was a new day and surrounding myself with positivity was my key to success. 

The people you have in your life.. ask yourself, do they uplift you? Give you advice, not the ones you want to hear but are necessary for your growth? In a time of need, are they there for you? Think about your closest friends... Do you guys share the same ideas or goals? Do they clap for you when you win or disappear? 

All of these factors are crucial to look at. You want and most importantly deserve good people in your life. You need people who can uplift you. People whose energy is drained aka energy vampires will continue to drain yours if you allow it. Remember the choice is yours. 

I was amazed at how my co-workers supported me and believed in me. That's what made me go in every day with a smile on my face. 

Finding your tribe will bring you closer to where you want to go. Surround yourself with people who have dreams and destinations. 

"Alone we can do so little; together we can do so much" :)