When I first started writing this blog, I didn't want the focus of my writings to be all about my everyday life. I wanted to help and inspire others to look deep into themselves and come out living their best life. I wanted to tackle the key points on how we can improve ourselves every day.
Today I am discussing the benefits of letting go of negative thinking and patterns.
After my mom passed away, for a few years I was very angry with myself and the world. I felt the world was against me and somehow I was being punished. I was ignorant and felt like a victim for some time, so I would just lay back and let the days passed me by. After seeking therapy and the help of good friends, I decided to stop feeling sorry for myself and take action.
Remember I spoke about it takes 21 days to form a habit. Journaling allowed me to express my negative emotions instead of taking it out on others and most importantly myself. Unfortunately, I didn't pursue my journal logs until years later.
Before moving to the city back in 2017, I had found those journals and decided to take a peek. I wanted to hug my younger self for how she had felt about herself. Almost every page was filled with such negative language, expressions, and self-hate. I knew I couldn't live like that and most importantly how unfair of me to pursue such thinking that didn't lead me to my dreams and goals.
Fast forward to now 2020, my negative thinking habits have been washed away. Not completely due to being human and perfectly imperfect but I've made such remarkable progress for how I process certain emotional events. Holding on to so much resentment towards myself and others who had done me wrong, I knew I had to let go and forgive. Easier said than done but its a big step in the right direction.
By letting go of emotions such as resentment, guilt, pain, anger, you get it by now allowed my thinking pattern to slowly turn around as well!!
By allowing more effective thoughts such as positivity, problem-solving, and really just knowing how strong I was as an individual, my subconscious and conscious started to work for me, not against me.
We don't realize but the way we speak, it greatly impacts the way we think towards ourselves. If all that comes out of your mouth is negative or whining like a little kid, what do you think that's doing to your brain waves and how you interpret others? I feel how we speak is how we feel and vice versa. How can one have a beautiful life when most of their thoughts are working against them?
It's hard to finally come to terms and be aware of how you speak and think. But I promise you it will save you from yourself, your relationships, and all of the interactions you have on a daily basis. Fun fact, our brains are more susceptible to think negatively due to our survival stress factor, but that's not an excuse to go around being a jerk. You're in control of your thoughts, emotions, triggers.
Let me give you some tips on how we can conquer these negative thinking patterns and live our best life:
1. Analyzing your thoughts, patterns.
Throughout your day, be aware of your thoughts, emotions, how are you feeling? Are you irritable, is something triggering you? Awareness is key to how to tackle negative thinking.
2. Staying Rational
Remember you control what comes out of your mouth, not the other way around. Staying rational and calm will allow you to analyze your thoughts and feelings easier.
3. Having a convo with yourself!!
I know sounds weird but ask yourself questions such as: If I react the way I would like to, does that make me the better person in this situation? Am I feeling this way due to what the person is saying or is this emotion built up from something else?
4. Positive Affirmations
I remember when I first started doing this, I thought it was weird, foreign, tacky but once I got into it, focused, and remembered why I was speaking positivity into myself, it allowed my brain to switch the off button when it came to negativity.
Writing positive affirmations on sticky notes and placing them where they will be visible to you all day really helps the subconscious. Some positive affirmations I write are: "I am healthy", I am divine", "My life is wonderful", "I am rich in all things", "I have everything I want".
Speaking those words out loud or just thinking them for 21 days, you will see the difference!! Speaking good words allows your thoughts to align with what's being said. Remember what we say, we become!!
I hope these tools will help you tackle anything in your life that you know you can change.
"The more you feed your mind with positive thoughts, the more you can attract great things into your life.
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