I'm currently reading a fantastic self-development book called The Magic Of Thinking Big written by David J. Schwartz, Ph.D. It has been giving me a fresh perspective on how to think and dream big in all areas of your life. The areas you already tackling with confidence, I applaud you for that, but how about tackling all of the areas in your life?!
Maybe you're great in your career field, you're on fire, all of your co-workers or employees think of you as the backbone to the companies successes, but you're slacking in the relationship department, maybe you've been single for some time now and want to get out there and explore your horizons but you lack confidence.
Well, I may not be a professional in this topic but due to my endless growth in the self-development world and just trying to become the best version of myself, I am here to give you the best advice possible! I am currently reading a chapter that involves raising your standard, how you perceive yourself, and how others perceive you. Let me ask all of you, how do you see yourself? Do you see yourself as a failure or someone who is growing and getting closer and closer to their goals?
Take some time to reflect on how you see yourself, and if you have close friends that are not afraid to tell you what you need to hear, it may be wise to ask them how they perceive you as well. Now if they think you can improve in some areas of your life, don't get yourself all riled up just yet! The key is to listen and reflect if what their saying is true.
I ask my partner all the time how can I improve myself, in our career, etc. Its one to thing to think we might be doing everything right, but it's another when observing from the bleachers. My partner may not have all the answers but I know when he points out things I need to work on for myself and our family, it's coming from a genuine place, and its something I needed to hear to face reality. Our perception is a lot different from others so by being perceptive and open when our loved ones or people that care for us give constructive feedback, it can be the gateway for endless improvement.
Raising your standard may be challenging at first especially if you're someone who lacks self-confidence, or has grown up with a mindset of not feeling worthy enough but my friends, in order to gain respect with ourselves and others, that's exactly what we need to do!
When we want to go after anything in life, whether it is a promotion at your job or asking out the girl or guy of your dreams, we need to visualize ourselves as what we want to be. We need to already play the part! Maybe you don't feel confident in the moment, but by fixing your posture, smiling wide and big, and wearing some clothes that make you feel that way, I tell you in no time you will become just that.
Believe or not we receive the kind of treatment we think we deserve, so by raising your standard and not putting up with the bare minimum we can put our mind to achieve anything. It all starts and ends with yourself and how you feel on the inside. If you feel ugly, chances are you will export that out into the world without even realizing, and no wonder why people will think they can walk all over you, but by putting more love and respect into ourselves, we will radiate that and therefore people will start to treat you such as. I'm not saying that always happens, people project whatever they feel on the inside but by raising our standards and putting our foot down and expecting more from ourselves you will notice the difference in how people react to you.
Have you ever noticed the confident & successful people who walk through the room, they almost immediately get the majority of everyone's respect? That's because they have demanded that for themselves and now are transmitting it into the outer world! If you're shaking your head in disbelief right now, I advise you next time you come in contact with someone who is confident or successful or even better, both you will see what I am talking about.
Its the same terminology how people can smell the other person's fear, what you are putting out there into the world, the energy you give off will come right back to you. So if you find yourself wanting to be taken more seriously, or you want people to see you for who you really are then become clear what it is you want the world to see from you, act like it, breathe like it, every day!
Remember my friends, it all starts with you. Think about what it is you want to see change, maybe it's your attitude, mindset, physical appearance, and then do it. Tell yourself everyday " I demand myself to become better not only for myself but for others" work on it, work on your attitude if that's what you want to see a change in, develop healthy habits, get a mentor, etc. You can only change how others perceive you by changing how you think of yourself.
Be love and you will seek it, be kind and you will seek kindness. If you want bigger and better things to happen for you, then you need to raise how you view yourself! Now let's get to work!
